Farhan's Almanac

There is a quiet shift that happens in relationships over time. The questions fade. The curiosity softens. The longer someone has known you, the less they seem to ask who you are. It is as if, at some point, they decided they already knew the answer. Ironically, it is often strangers who ask the questions that matter. They listen without the weight of history. They notice details that others overlook. In their unfamiliarity, they make space for who you are right now, not who you used to be. Familiarity can be comforting, but it can also be blinding. When someone thinks they already know you, they stop discovering . And without realizing it, they begin relating to a version of you that may no longer exist. Understanding someone is not about collecting facts from their past. It is not about memorizing their habits or predicting their reactions. It is about staying curious, to learn who they are becoming. Because people, I , change—quietly, constantly, and often invisibly. And to truly u...

I've noticed this personally. Not that I've achieved all I aimed for in life by any means. But then, when I have achieved some things, they weren't so much something to be proud of. There were either things I still wasn't happy with, or they still weren't as good as they could have been, or as good as other people's achievements. Other people being pleased with the result would bring some relief but then, not totally. To an extent, it's been good to have this mindset. It meant there was never a sense of having accomplished enough, so there were then new things to strive for. On the other hand though, not experiencing much joy from achieving certain goals means it makes you question whether any other or higher goals are worth struggling towards. If none are going to bring satisfaction, why bother? I suppose because there was also a sense of failure if I didn't try at all. Plus, the practical danger that I may have to return to a menial job that I would ha...

Tenang, ini bukan interogasi polisi. Ini hanya satu pertanyaan kecil yang mungkin diam-diam Anda pikirkan tiap kali buka toko online, lihat story orang, atau mikirin soal masa depan. Mari mulai dengan sesuatu yang sederhana. Bayangkan Anda akhirnya beli iPhone 17 Pro Max 2 TB Cosmic Orange yang sudah lama Anda incar. Yang Anda pikirkan mungkin adalah “Wah, enak nih buat kerja, render lebih kenceng, multitasking sat-set, rekam video gak takut habis memori, baterai awet, layar enak buat nonton.” “Ini kalau dipost di story pasti banyak yang reply: ‘anjay’, ‘spill dong harganya’, ‘gila naik kelas’, ‘boba tiga nih ye’.” Jawab dengan jujur, yang mana yang lebih dulu muncul? Ini bukan soal benar atau salah, tapi siapa sebenarnya yang sedang Anda layani? Diri Anda sendiri, atau “penonton” di luar sana? Kita geser ke hal yang lebih sensitif: pasangan . Mungkin Anda pernah (atau sedang) suka sama seseorang yang kalau jalan bareng dia, Anda bisa kebayang komentar orang “Gila, kok bisa sih dapetin...